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The Dark Side of Family & Friends Financing
(And some big updates from Doriot)
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I don’t know about you, but I when I saw this pattern, the Great Sphinx of Giza came to mind. Welcome new subscribers!
Happy Friday!
My name is Gerry Hays, and for lack of a better description, I’m the custodian and convener of Doriot, a movement to break open the gates of venture and expand opportunity beyond an elite few.
I’ve been in the game of venture as a founder, investor, researcher, inventor, author, game designer, and professor. I’ve built companies and developed a global venture portfolio entirely from the great state of Indiana, all while teaching over 6,000 undergraduates and MBAs at Indiana University, as well as in Croatia, Hong Kong, Slovenia, and Singapore.
This Week’s Highlights in the Democratize Venture Space
Dr. Martha Boeckenfeld recently released the Pathway 2035 for Financial Innovation at the World Economic Forum. Something that caught our eye: the global cryptocurrency market is projected to grow from $4.67 billion in 2022 to $81.05 billion by 2030 — a CAGR of 42.8% — propelling us further toward a borderless economy.
If you want to geek out on how the United States, Europe, and the UAE regulate retail venture investing, this is an excellent article — especially for its detailed breakdown of how the SEC currently approaches Reg CF and Reg A+.
Latest Doriot Updates
Doriot’s unheard-of approach to startup investing, VentureStaking™, launches on April 15, 2025. The first sneak peek is coming soon. To keep the main URL dedicated to the reveal and MVP, Doriot’s education products will have a new home at Doriot University (www.DoriotU.com). DoriotU is committed to delivering elite venture education to high schools, universities, and the broader public. We’re seeing growing enrollment in QAI and increased university adoption of Fantasy Startup and The First-Time Founder’s Equity Bible. With that momentum, I’ll be looking for someone to lead Doriot University in the coming months — feel free to send any potential candidates my way.
To sharpen our focus on core products that deliver the highest value, we are sunsetting Doriot Deal Reports, effective immediately. Existing Doriot Deal Reports will not go away, they will remain available on www.DoriotU.com. Recently renewed subscriptions will receive prorated refunds. While bittersweet, the wealth of insights Doriot has into venture investing behavior is a direct result of 2½ years of extensive testing and learning — an invaluable foundation that wouldn’t exist otherwise. We are incredibly grateful for all of the early adopters and for those who participated in our numerous venture pools – your investments are still live on www.Doriot.vc and we will continue to track and monitor new developments and exits. 🚀
This Week’s Feature Article: The Dark Side of Family & Friends Financing
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When I launched my first startup, HomeYeah.com, in 1999, I raised money from family and friends. While I ultimately achieved an exit, it wasn’t the win we all had expected. I lost 100% of my net worth and 100% their invested capital. That pain — knowing I had cost people I loved their hard-earned savings — was brutal. I went from feeling like a promising entrepreneur to feeling like a disappointment. The guilt, grief, and emotional burden were crushing. I’m not alone.
Raising money from family and friends is often the easiest — and most common — way for entrepreneurs to get started. In the early years of a startup, both VCs and angel investors expect the riskiest phase — research and development — to be funded by those closest to the founder. It’s a long-standing norm in the venture world.
In fact, after founders’ personal savings, family and friends are the second-largest source of startup capital, with 38% of startups relying on them for initial funding (Kauffman Foundation, 2023). This money is given out of love, trust, and belief — not necessarily from an objective evaluation of the opportunity. And while this practice is deeply ingrained in startup culture, it carries hidden costs that can be detrimental, emotionally taxing, and even discriminatory.
Massive Market — And Massive Risks
According to Fundable, founders raise an estimated $60 billion from family and friends each year to fund their ventures, with an average investment of $23,000. This underscores the heavy reliance entrepreneurs place on personal networks for funding. However, with capital concentrated among a small circle of loved ones, this dependence carries a significant emotional and relational burden.
Entrepreneurship is inherently risky, but when funding comes from loved ones, that risk takes on a deeply personal weight. Failure isn’t just financial — it’s emotional and relational:
Financial strain: If the venture fails, loved ones who couldn’t afford the loss may face real financial hardship.
Founder guilt: Entrepreneurs often carry a heavy emotional burden when they lose money entrusted by family and friends.
Damaged relationships: A failed business can strain or even permanently fracture relationships, turning financial setbacks into deep personal wounds.
Clearly, raising money from family and friends isn’t just about capital — it’s about trust, relationships, and emotional stakes that can far outlast the business itself.
The Discriminatory Nature of Family & Friends Financing
Family-and-friends financing is also fundamentally discriminatory, disproportionately limiting opportunities for entrepreneurs from underrepresented backgrounds. According to McKinsey’s report on the underrepresented founder experience, White families in America have, on average, 13 times the wealth of Black families and six times that of Hispanic families. As a result, founders without wealthy personal networks frequently must rely on cold outreach rather than warm introductions — drastically reducing their likelihood of securing early funding.
This structural barrier leaves many brilliant, innovative founders sidelined, unable to access even modest amounts of capital necessary for basic R&D. Consequently, their ideas remain trapped, perpetuating cycles of inequality and stifling innovation.
Family & Friends Funding Drives Less Aggressive Innovation?
Beyond emotional stress and discrimination, family-and-friends financing might negatively impact entrepreneurs' growth strategies. In a recently published study by Indiana University’s Kelley School of Business professors Donald F. Kuratko, Greg Fisher, and Regan Stevenson, researchers introduce the concept of "funding-source-induced bias" — a phenomenon where the closeness of entrepreneurs' relationships with investors triggers anticipated guilt, influencing strategic decision-making.
Using a sample of 193 entrepreneurs actively involved in incubator and accelerator programs, researchers confirmed this dynamic. Entrepreneurs funded by close personal connections consistently reported higher anticipated guilt related to risky decisions, prompting them to pursue lower-risk, less ambitious growth strategies. Thus, while family-and-friends financing may help ventures get started, it simultaneously undermines their ability to achieve breakthrough success.
To expand innovation, we need a better way to capitalize R&D rounds
Every year, I ask my students about raising money from family and friends. Most hesitate. They recognize the risks, the pressure, and the potential for strained relationships. Yet, under the traditional venture model, many feel they have no other choice.
The usual advice? “Manage” the transaction carefully to minimize future fallout — or worse, legal disputes. But the reality is, no matter how cautious founders are, personal relationships can still suffer. This isn’t just a challenge — it’s a major roadblock to entrepreneurship and innovation.
We can do better. The next generation of great innovators shouldn’t be limited by who they know — they should be empowered by what they can build. That’s the promise of VentureStaking™, a groundbreaking new model of venture investing.
Updates on Doriot Invested Companies
No updates this week :(
Have a great weekend! -gerry ([email protected])
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